Do You Want a Girlfriend ?🙄

You see a gorgeous girl, absolutely gorgeous, and your brain responds thereto in few scenarios ::
One Wow ,she's so attractive, i would like to possess her as my girlfriend. which suggests possession of beauty .

Second. Wow, she's so attractive, and that is it .which means acknowledgement of beauty ,and leaving it at that.

Three Wow ,what a beautiful girl, i really like her which is suicide of intelligence .

The most recurring theme is attraction .the want is acquisition .the cost is that the possibility of rejection or getting hurt . Therefore love abundantly becomes a possession of beauty .you see something beautiful and you would like it to be yours .

Why ?because 1. Beauty seems to be a wonderfully positive thing.

2. Validation. If you've got somebody beautiful you're capable in your own eyes,

3.Competition .the more beautiful the partner is more capable as a person you're Societally .

4. Sex ,beauty underlays the foremost basic attraction.

This becomes tousled when beauty becomes an element that starts to ignore, manipulate and twist information which may cause you to not so interested in them. belongings you may have reasonably selected as red flags ,compromises you do not want to form ,lifestyle choices you afflict , or any number of characteristics that turn you off, and now they're suddenly ignored , manipulated or twisted by your brain. In many situation, it evaporates any moral boundaries also ,for example you are looking at a woman who isn't single but you do not care. But we're not here to speak that .

We are talking about how you fool yourself and limits are fooling yourself to travel to ,convince yourself that this is often the one ,because you're hypnotized by their beauty .

◆ Red flags .suddenly, things which will cause you to question their loyalty ,starting from sexual history to social behavioral patterns ,are met with justifications .she was cheated before ,that's why.she's like that because her parents were divorced. you're using sympathy as a tool to fool yourself and make more attraction toward her which is emotional ,and since it's hard to seek out any emotional compatibility, You were trying to find and using tragedies from her past ,viewing her as an innocent, clueless victim and justifying them .this is a really common thing people do because, One ,you are desperately attracted ,and two a part of your brain knows it's just sexual , so you're forcing an emotional attraction.

◆ Lack of criteria : You never consciously decided that this is often yes and these are nos. Your red flags our accidental findings of your reasoning supported your past experiences and knowledge .because they're accidental, they're not that serious. You're never given them any power. A criteria is consciously drawn out rules or a line that differentiates between what's acceptable and otherwise. within the absence of such lines ,things that are unacceptable get easily ignored due to desperation. to form better choices in life, you would like criterias.

◆ What are you trying to find ? Suddenly ,this idea in your mind of the sort of person you would like to be with gets subverted by attraction.what you were trying to find before-- qualities ,habits, intelligence -- starts to urge readjusted consistent with the personality of this person and you're doing this consciously ,which takes us to point .

◆ Compromise : You're making compromises within the matter of seconds. She doesn't have that who cares she doesn't believe this .well we will be a few that believes in two various things anything goes after now .six months later ,you are stuck during a chaotic relationship and you're trying with all the energy in your bones ,mental capacities ,and all the time you've got to salvage and fix this. you've got stopped working completely, your dreams are becoming punched and this person seems to be the primary person you have ever met, because they simply fail to ascertain things eye-to-eye with you then you hate the other sex.

So here's an issue for you ,do you need a smoking-hot gorgeous girlfriend ?Or, does one need a stable relationship? If latter ,here are a couple of things which will are available handy :

@ learn to remain single ,which means twiddling my thumbs . it isn't gonna happen within the first try .

@ Develop a criteria :what does one want in them ?what are the strict no nos?

@ Have the character and therefore the strength to seem beyond beauty .there is no shortage of lovely people during this world. And lastly learn to mention no to yourself. Yes she's beautiful but i do not accept as true with her lifestyle ,so I'm not getting to pursue this .this may still not guarantee that you simply will land during a stable relationship but what it does is it saves you from months and years of agony torture trauma and waste which i think is any day a much better deal .

Thank you for reading and always remember you're awesome.

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